Feeling Sexy for You — Not for Them

Society says that people, especially women should look good and sexy for their partners. I’m not sure if I have mentioned this, but I hate the word “should.“ You hear phrases like “Eye Candy“ and “Trophy Wife.“ However, what if you just made yourself feel and/or look good for yourself? Why does everything need to be about people and how they perceive us? Have you ever wondered, “What do I think of me?“ “Do I like myself?“ “Do I like the way I look and/or feel?“

Have you ever gone lingerie shopping for your eyes only? Have you ever taken yourself on a date? Have you ever scheduled body exploration with yourself only?

If you haven’t, I strongly suggest you do that. I’ll write about it at another time, but dating yourself is life changing!

When I was single, and I felt like I need a pick me up, I would plan a whole day or night for me. Sometimes that involved, buying me lingerie for my eyes only, getting me a meal I love, and going home. Once, I was home, I would put on makeup, style my hair, put on my favorite perfume, put my lingerie on, grab some food like tacos, and watch my favorite movie. I would feel amazing, beautiful, and empowered. No one ever saw me that night, but it wasn’t for them, it was for me and for me to feel good and beautiful.

Feeling and/or looking sexy doesn’t have to be the goal and if you choose to feel and/or look sexy, it can be just for you and no one else. You can feel and look sexy with sweats on, in a mascot costume, your favorite outfit, or wearing nothing at all. Your hair can be oily and uncombed and you can still feel and look sexy. If you feel it and think it, you will be it.

Being sexy does not have to be for others, but it can be just you sitting at home, doing something that makes you feel beautiful and happy.