I Did Something Embarrassing During Sex — Now What? | Jane Unbound

We’ve all had those moments in bed where something unexpected (and a little mortifying) happens. If you’re thinking, “I did something embarrassing during sex,” you’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you’re bad at sex or unworthy of connection. Let’s talk about how to handle it and how to move forward with confidence.

Have you ever been in the middle of a play session and did something embarrassing? Maybe you accidentally passed gas or fell off the bed. In full disclosure, I did both and at first I was embarrassed. One was with someone I did not know very well and the other was with someone who I knew for a while. This is what I will tell you, picking a person/s to have sex with is very important. Finding people who respect you will make any moment you didn’t plan on into something fun.

I remember that I fell off the bed trying to go into another position and they just laughed and said I was cute. That was a life-changing moment for me. I realised that perfection is not needed in the bedroom. Also, if the person you are with expects perfection, maybe they are not the best play partner to be with.

Let me give you an example outside of sexual activity:

If you have ever baked, you might find that sometimes when things don’t go exactly as planned, some of the adjustments you made, can make the best desserts you have ever baked. The other day, I was making peanut butter cookies and I didn’t have any eggs in the refrigerator. I did not know what to do, so I decided to double the milk needed and they came out better than the recipe! What I’m trying to say is that you might think that your session is going to go one way and what you might get is much better.

Picking a sexual partner, whether it’s one time only or on a long-term basis, is extremely important. Being with someone who allows you to be human and you do the same for them, will make a difference.

I do not know everyone’s sexual experiences in this world, but I will say this, I know I am not the only one who has done something embarrassing or not planned. If this happens to you or the person you are with, learning to take the moment and not shame or condemn anyone and just being able to move past it, if you are able to, will elevate a play session.