Have you ever Wondered if you are Attractive?

I think this is a question we have all asked ourselves at different times in our lives. Maybe someone told you, you are or aren’t. Does that mean what they said is the truth and there is no other answer?

I can speak about what girls and women go through. I grew up in a time when blonde hair, slim, and straight figure bodies were beautiful and if you didn’t have those features, good luck in life. I have freckles and was told they were ugly (I have always loved my freckles, despite what I was told). For most of my life, I have been a plus-size woman and society does not always have nice things to say about people, especially women with extra weight.

I used to lack confidence and believe me it showed. Looking back, I wish I knew what I knew now. I stopped looking for outside validation and looked within. I went to my mirror, both my bathroom and bedroom mirror and looked at myself. I made sure to see what I liked and made a mental note about it. I decided to focus on that and not what I didn’t like. Eventually, I became confident despite my flaws. It showed in everything I do. Before I knew it, people were drawn to me. I made a ton of friends and I was going on multiple dates every week. You know what the funny thing is?… At that time I weighed the most than I ever did.

What I'm trying to say is attraction is not always with how you look, it comes from within. I looked the same, but when people were interested in me, my lack of confidence drew them away. You can be the most attractive person in the world, but if you are not confident, that will make people look at you differently.

Now let’s get into another point about this topic. Do you find everybody attractive or sexy? Probably not. However the people you are not attracted to, someone else thinks they are the most beautiful person in the world. One person might think blonde hair is gorgeous, while another person thinks brown hair is beautiful. Someone may think freckles are ugly, while someone else might think they won the lottery because someone they’re with has freckles. What I'm saying, is that we can’t be everyone’s type, just like you are not attracted to everyone. Beauty is subjective and depends on every single person.

I’m going to leave you with one last thing. Your opinion of yourself is the most important. If you think you are attractive, it will show. If you don’t think you are, it will show. Some people say mean things to others, just to gain power. Those are called bullies. Bullies are not meant to be trusted and often what they say is false.

So if you have ever wondered if you are attractive, the answer is yes. Only you can believe that or not. What you believe will be shown to others.