Is It Ok to be a Confident Woman?

Have you ever watched a show where, when one of the characters tells a woman she is beautiful, and she says “I know“ or “Thank you,” the audience laughs? It’s because society expects women to say, “No, I’m not“ whenever they are told a compliment. It’s so accepted by others that the media uses it as comedic relief in shows.

Why does this question even need to be asked? Well, it’s not easy being a woman and confident at the same time. People don’t always know how to process when they interact with a confident woman, and that can lead to unhealthy responses and treatment.

Why do people try to keep women insecure and self-conscious? It’s much harder to control a woman who knows what she is worth and deserves.

So here’s my answer: It is always ok for a woman to be confident. I encourage it and try to help women become confident in themselves. Also, empowered women empower other women. There is no need to compete with another woman or have a hierarchy when you know you are amazing with wonderful qualities and flaws. You no longer feel that you have to win and be better. You already know that you have already won because you are you, and you wish every woman saw that they are winners too.

I continually work on being confident; sometimes it takes no effort, and sometimes it takes a lot of work. My wish is that we teach everybody to become confident when they are children, so they don’t have to learn about it when they are adults. However, before that happens, what can we do? We can learn to work with our flaws and appreciate our accomplishments, so that we don’t feel like we have to compete, and that being ourselves is enough.